Thursday, May 24, 2018

Light and shadow


It is difficult to do shadow work on our own as the territory is darkened. There is a lantern in the relational field which can bring illumination to those areas which are hidden and buried. To borrow another's soothed, calm nervous system, to wash our perception with light, to open the secret places in the body and the heart. Who and what this "other" is must be unveiled by way of our embodied vulnerability.

As we provide sanctuary and safe passage to the lost feelings, the abandoned creativity, and split off pieces of the soul, we enliven the inner ecology of psyche. It is not easy to find these ones on our own as the landscape is hazy, the forests of psyche are thick, and we all have within us a propensity to maintain things as they are. While there is a genuine part of us that wishes to heal, there are other parts that know what will be required, which is the unraveling of the world as we have known it.

While there is a certain excitement about this, it is important that we create a home for the visitors of trepidation, fear, and ambivalence, to offer a great feast where all the figures can come. If we deny these ones entry, out of some belief in their invalidity, they will find other ways to come, leaking into our bodies, relationships, work, and dreams. The unwanted ones are not what they appear, but come as light in disguise.



My latest book – The Path Is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You – is now available 


My next two events: 

The Path is Everywhere: A Weekend Intensive, June 15-18 in Loveland, Colorado

The Great Befriending: A Five-Day Journey of Self-Love, Deep Rest, and Coming Alive (with Jeff Foster), September 21-26 in Loveland, Colorado 

Tuesday, May 22, 2018

Bowing to the altar of Here


The path of the heart is not only one of transcendence, where we move from matter to spirit. It is also one of descent, of dance and play and failure and joy, beholding the mystery as it spirals out of the heavens and into the earth; into the mud, the mess, the chaos, and the unknown. To accompany love as its fellow traveler, as it emerges out of the stars and infuses material.

This latter movement is not usually quite as clean, white, invulnerable, safe, or protected. It is unclothed: of fixed concept, a clear map, and knowing how it’s all going to turn out. No solid reference point to organize around, we are naked, unsure, but alive.

At points along the way, the movement from “here” to “there” is washed away and is replaced by wonder. No longer quite as interested in completing some mythical journey, we stand in awe at the ways spirit infuses time and space, comes into matter, and reveals the sacred world.

While “there” is as valid a fantasy as any, at times we are asked to bow down to the altar of “here,” realizing that our lives are more than one grand improvement project. On that altar we discover our fears, disappointments, joys, and realizations. Our grief, our dreams, our lovers, our pain.

By revering those objects and stepping into the vessel with them they reveal themselves from the inside out, illuminated with that same substance that keeps the planets from falling out of the sky.



My latest book – The Path Is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You – is now available 


My next two events: 

The Path is Everywhere: A Weekend Intensive, June 15-18 in Loveland, Colorado

The Great Befriending: A Five-Day Journey of Self-Love, Deep Rest, and Coming Alive (with Jeff Foster), September 21-26 in Loveland, Colorado 

Monday, May 21, 2018

Lost and found


A moment of mindfulness, presence, and non-judgmental compassion. For an instant, the ancient circuitry of self-abandonment is replaced with pathways of empathic attunement. A moment of rest from habitual consciousness, repetitive thinking, that panicky feeling in the belly, the worry that something is wrong.

In the next moment, we have left the spontaneity of now and traveled into past or future, drawn magnetically to the images, memories, daydreams, and confusion of conflicting narrative and contradictory feeling. It can feel like falling down a rabbit hole. But like Alice in her journeys into Wonderland, things are not often as they appear.

When seen with open eyes and tender heart, even the falling itself is perceived as it is—as some wild kind of grace and invitation into the archetypal dance of hide and seek. In the original illustrations, when Alice is falling, we see that she encounters pieces of psyche and soma that she has lost along the way, in trying to fit in to a world that was too fixed and solid to stay with the majestic imagination of a ripening little being.

The Cheshire cat is sure to be nearby, a new hermetic guide to the underworld, revealing the borderline and transitions and the creativity found only in embodied attunement to the unknown.

When you notice that you have fallen, realize that the mystery has opened. While the temptation is to conclude that you have failed, the invitation is into curiosity and imagination, to become fascinated with what it is like to become distracted and the gloriousness of even that… to touch the mystery of lost and found and very gently return into the spaciousness of now. Only to become lost once again, and then found, and then lost, and then…

The fantasy of being “permanently” found is washed away by love itself, who wants only all of you, not just the one who believes they have been found.



My latest book – The Path Is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You – is now available 


My next two events: 

The Path is Everywhere: A Weekend Intensive, June 15-18 in Loveland, Colorado

The Great Befriending: A Five-Day Journey of Self-Love, Deep Rest, and Coming Alive (with Jeff Foster), September 21-26 in Loveland, Colorado